Most nights I try NOT to initate anymore. I feel bad when I do initate and she is to tired. There is only so much humiliation a guy can take. So far I have had sex twice this year, both initiated by me. She has not initiated sex in over 8 years. Does she feel constant pressure to ML, no. I don't initiate that much anymore. I have gone for several months waiting for her to make ANY kind of move, sex, affection, whatever. It never happens. She pretty much is assexual. She has a big time problem with desire before arrousal. So if I stopped any initiation with her, it could go forever and she would be fine with that. Her life is about her children and her job, I just am not important. Afterall, sex and affection are for "Young" couples according to her. We are now in the "Mature" love group, or the people that don't get any.
