LD spouse needs help

[CeMar]

Ladies:

Who says you have to have speedy orgasams. I personally LOVE to drag the contact out. I would love to have LM sessions on occassions that go on for hours (just not every time). My problem is my wife orgasams fairly easily and her goal is to get the sex over and get back to sleep (how romantic!). If the guy is orgasaming to early for you, have him think about something else while LM. If I want to drag it out, I think about visits to the dentists. That will take my focus of Mr. Willey. I can then outlast the wife.

[cinemanymph]

Ce,
Please don't tell us that you don't know the difference between performing fellatio and cunnilingus!! Get thee to the nearest library and check out Greys Anatomy.

[cinemanymph]

My problem is my wife orgasams fairly easily and her goal is to get the sex over and get back to sleep

and

If I want to drag it out, I think about visits to the dentists

Mrs. CeMar is trying to get it over so she can go back to sleep and you are thinking about dental visits. Doesn't sound like much fun for either of you.

[Greeneyedlass]

CeMar,

I don't think anyone has stated there is any difference....I think the point is more that just because you like/want to do it doesn't mean she will like/want to do it. It's a VERY individual thing.

[CeMar]

cinemanymph:

Of course I know the difference. It's the yuck factor that I am talking about. Women dislike fellatio becuase it is yucky and the "Do you know what comes out of that thing" excuse. But men could ALSO use these excuses for not going down on a woman (but many of us do not). I just don't buy it that fellatio is so demanding of the woman while cunninglis is expected from the man. They can both have their disgusting aspects, but you don't see me making any excuses. I do it because my wife WANTS it.

[cinemanymph]

CeMar,
Have you asked your W if she wants you to do oral on her? Though they find it hard to admit it, some women do not care for oral (just because they orgasm doesn't mean that they are enjoying being orally manipulated). I would much rather be the giver than the givee when it comes to oral. I don't think oral is disgusting at all. I don't have a problem with body fluids or smells.

[cinemanymph]

"Do you know what comes out of that thing"

If you studied that copy of Greys a little closer, you would find out that it is virtually impossible for a man with an erection to urinate. If you want your W to fellate you to completion you may have to take it in very small steps. Maybe you could get her to kiss your navel as a start, then next time have her move a half inch south and so on and so on.

I remember you saying that she gave you oral all the time when she had more desire. What changed, what made her want to stop?

[CeMar]

cinemanymph:

Everything changd when her sex drive disappeared! Her change in sex drive changed EVERYTHING about her. She pulled the typical bait and switch, 2-4 years of good sex, and then her sex drive just vanished. The source of the problem, who knows. Take your pick from the following list:

Having 3 kids, youngest is now 8.
She has hypothirodism which causes body image problems (fat).
She was neglected and maybe abused as a child.
She is premenopause(45).
Relationship issues (although I think her desire left long before they became prevalent).

There are possbily many reasons for her LD. I have asked her over the years as to what causes it, and her answers have been different. I hate to say this, but I would bet that most LD people have no freaking clue as to the true source of their LD, so how in the heck are us HD's supposed to help fix the problem! AS for BJ's, she did them early in our relationship, but now finds them disgusting. She claims that she now realizes what other things come through the penis and this she finds disgusting, but she is a health major, she has ALWAYS known this. From what I have read, it is very common for women to use BJ's to lure their husbands in, and once the wedding vows are done, she no longer has to do such gross and disgusting things.

[CeMar]

GEL:

So, where is the compromise? The solution is to compromise sexually, but it seems that I am the only one compromising. She gets all the oral sex she can handle, and in exchange, I get nothing. Good compromise!

Yea, it's also a good way to show your desire and love for your man, just tell him you find his dick disgusting.

[nightrunner]

Cemar, have you ever stopped initiating and giving her oral for any length of time to see if she starts initiating? Maybe she is feeling constant pressure to ML.