LD spouse needs help

[MJontheMend]

But I also think that personally speaking if I could predictably expect an orgasm in a reasonable amount of time it would increase my pleasure, reduce my sense that my slow pace is a burden for H and I would more reliably look forward to sex. I've ordered the book "Five Minutes to Orgasm Every Time You Make Love: Female Orgasm Made Simple" and hope it's as good as its title.

You know what? Even very HD women have this problem sometimes. In a way it's worse for us because we REALLY can develop the tendency to think the fact that we're taking so long is a drag for our Hs since we had to talk them into sex in the first place .

If you think about it just in practical terms, we women are really at a disadvantage when it comes to speedy orgasms. Consider IC in the missionary position. The penis gets warmth, lubrication and lots of direct contact. The poor little clitoris is left out in the cold with only what little lubrication happens to slosh its way up there and little direct contact unless your H happens to have a beer belly that hits it at just the right angle. Thus orgasming in the missionary position for a woman is the equivalent of a man orgasming by making a ring with his fingers, placing it at the very base of his penis and then only moving his penis by flexing his butt muscles. What I mean to indicate is that it can be done but it takes a high level of arousal and a good deal of concentration.