Your "minimal" list still seems pretty daunting to me as an HD woman. Thinking back to when I was LD, the 3x a week thing would NEVER have worked....and that's your minimum? Heck, I'm HD now and wouldn't want it that often (some very HD women could go for it I'm sure, but not me). If I'm HD and that number makes me go "uh dude that's unrealistic"...what do you think your chances are that you'd get that from your W? You really need to start IMHO with a lower number for frequency....I mean geesh ask for once a week, and be happy with that as a minimum...then perhaps build. If you start w something like 3x per week....and you are only getting it right now once every 4-8 weeks you may as well ask for the moon.
We've talked about the fellatio issue before, so I'm not going to rehash the whole thing....the fact is you cannot make her WANT to do it. If there is some reason she doesn't want to do it then you will have to ask her why she doesn't want to do it. If her answer happens to be "I just don't like it" then ask her why...ask her if there is something you do that she's uncomfortable with during it, or if there is something you can do that would make her more comfortable with it....and be prepared for her to flat-out tell you that she doesn't want you to ejaculate in her mouth. It's not a rejection of you if she doesn't like that. So short of re-hashing this whole topic again....that's my opinion.
