To be perfectly honest with you....I'd rather hear your own thoughts than what you read in a book, whether that book be written by a psychologist, therapist....or the Holy Bible itself...I'd rather hear your thoughts. You would be amazed how many women have a much higher sex drive than they admit to.....just as many men have a lower one, it's simply isn't discussed. I have recently discovered another friend of mine is married to a man who is LD in comparison to her...she's like me, she doesn't want/need/desire sex daily or even multiple times weekly; she, like myself, could happily live with once or twice a week....yet her H loves her but doesn't think about it.
I found this bit of info out when I and two of my friends went to dinner and we began chatting about my H. These ladies are my best friends so they are aware of our situation and our progress....this friend I've had for 20 years just told me about this. What are the odds that I would know not one but two other women in the same situation as mine? One of them (probably like myself) if you were to look from the outside into the marriage would NEVER guess had an LDH, the other (the one who just fessed up) used to go on and on and on about her H's SD and how often he wanted it....SHE was ashamed to tell me the truth because we, as women, are taught men are supposed to think about sex 24-7 and when they don't it confuses the heck out of us and affects our self-worth.
Really....I've come to learn there is no "norm", it's what two people can come to terms with as far as their SL's go. CeMar, I am HD in my R....but I would be LD to you.
