My bf will also sit on the computer at all hours. I do too (obviously), but I'm conscious of his need for my attention and my need not to be online all the time.

On the other hand, DL said
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But H is also right that for whatever reasons I let my involvement in these groups overflow into my personal life more than he does.

These groups ARE part of your personal life. Not every bit of your personal life needs to be devoted to your H.