Why is email such a bone of contention for you two?
Do you work from home and the emails have to be answered or dealt with prior to Monday morning? Is there a way to put it off so that particular bone can be wiped off the list? Just throwing out some ideas to you. Not that you have to stop checking it entirely, but perhaps giving a little on this request would reap big benefits for you.
As far as the news, why does it bother you that he watches it faithfully? Does he expect YOU to stay up and be ready for action afterwards? That would bother me, too, if so..
Also, is there a time of day in which you prefer to have sex? I can see how him expecting to fill the 9-10 slot with sex would put pressure on you. If you were choosing the time of day, maybe this would take care of it.
Btw, I wanted to say that I admire you. You seem to have a very keen insight into your own behavior and that is really a critical component of success, imo.
Good luck to you; we are all struggling with our own demons no matter if our desire level is high or low, but it is nice to know that others are out there working on their M's too, isn't it?
As far as the email goes, I would trust what he says--that she is a symptom--but I would also keep on my toes and make myself aware of his doings.
And by all means get a new therapist. Consider this a fresh start for your marriage, in every single way.
