Good for you for looking to improve your situation. Here's some questions for you to give us all a better background on you....
1. How often do you initiate? 2. How often would he ideally like to ML? 3. Between what how often he would like to ML and how often you would like to ML...where is a liveable # of times that you could compromise on for frequency? 3. Do the two of you ever do sexual things but not full intercourse when one or the other isn't fully "in the mood"? 4. Do you do anything sexual throughout the day to show your H you find him attractive? (ie: touches, rubbing up against him, whatever he finds attractive) 5. How do the two of you communicate with each other in general. Do you two tend to be up-front and honest or tend to avoid conflict? 6. Do you feel physical contact from him must lead to sex, or does he touch you affectionately too....can you just snuggle and feel he doesn't expect more? 7. Do you feel you show him that you find him attractive? 8. How do you show him you find him attractive/desireable? 9. Do the two of you talk honestly about your feelings and how things (like this) affect you and make you feel? 10. What do you do for yourself to make YOU feel attractive?
Oh and....
11. Just to rule out any physical causes for low-libido...have you spoken to your Dr.?
I know this sounds like quite a bit...but think about these things...it's a place to start
