Bridget! No update from you??? (I looked!) Thanks for the visit, girlfriend.
Kind of an off night last night. h woke up yesterday irked with me. I guess he didn't sleep well and said I was stealing the covers and he was cold. Definitely contributed to the wrong side of the bed syndrome. He had a quiet day at home and when I got home from work we went for a walk. It was a beautiful night, the walk was great, but he was still perturbed.
When we got home I neglected to take my shoes off so he got irked about that, too. He elaborated a bit on how irked he was about the covers thing and the tracking dirt thing. Frankly, it was humbling to be on the other side of his bad mood/anger. It's easy for me to say "just detach!" or "don't take it personally!" when I post to others but h's anger is so far between now that when it comes back it's startling.
Anyway, I did detach and I didn't take it personally . I probably talked too much but in a lighthearted non-threatened way. He apologized a few times. He said "I shouldn't bring this stuff up with you when I still do annoying things" (to which I responded "Honey, you don't have to be perfect yourself in order to raise concerns with me!") and later he mused aloud "why didn't you start bringing up my faults during the conversation?" (to which I replied "Honey, we were talking about issues that you were upset about. What does that have to do with your quirks? It's not a competition!")
This morning he woke up and gave me a few hugs and thanked me for being so sensitive to his feelings. (And, I'll note, I did NOT steal any covers last night!).
He's got a lot on his plate right now and perhaps he's also yearning for some alone time after the long weekend of closeness...I'm cool with that...I've got things to do, too . I do wish, though, if that's it, that it could come wrapped in a different package...the anger and "you always" and "you never" and "I've given up thinking THAT will change" reminds me too much of THEN.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
and I didn't take it personally 
. I probably talked too much but in a lighthearted non-threatened way. He apologized a few times. He said "I shouldn't bring this stuff up with you when I still do annoying things" (to which I responded "Honey, you don't have to be perfect yourself in order to raise concerns with me!") and later he mused aloud "why didn't you start bringing up my faults during the conversation?" (to which I replied "Honey, we were talking about issues that you were upset about. What does that have to do with your quirks? It's not a competition!")
. I do wish, though, if that's it, that it could come wrapped in a different package...the anger and "you always" and "you never" and "I've given up thinking THAT will change" reminds me too much of THEN.
