F4w, thanks for the male perspective! I definitely needed it!
JV, you are doing so great in your sitch. Thanks for taking the time out to visit me and offer kind words.
Ellie and Slowly, yes, referring to my "ex" sounds like a great idea. And Ellie, I KNEW you'd pick up on the studying thing! It was just sort of impossible for me to go Sat. but next time he asks, I'm there!
The rest of the weekend went well. We got up Sun and went to the gym and then ran errands. We did homework for a lot of the day and then went out to eat last night. h was being very affectionate and loving and understanding. He really was a big part of making me feel better.
Today he has my cell at school and he's called 2x. FF walked by and said something to him while he was on the phone with me -- I wouldn't have known because I didn't hear anything but he was quick to tell me what she had said.
A major, major positive happened yesterday...h brought up a subject with me that is a tough one for him ... he brought up some concerns he's been having and we had a brief but very positive conversation. He had some suggestions on on fixes to make and he listened to mine too. I thanked him for bringing up this very difficult subject and once again he said to me "I know I can bring this kind of stuff up with you now. I really feel comfortable talking about stuff like this." As you all know, this is BIG and a direct result of lots of hard work on both sides. Learning to manage my reactions has really made a big difference.
I'm off! I'll check in with you guys later!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
