First, I really wish we could beam over to see each other when we needed to as well. Your coffee and tea rituals seem very grand by the way. Over here, I tend to just grab a cup whenever I'm filling up the truck with gas (petrol? ). Always tastes like someone swirled it around an ashtray first. But I digress...
First, remember Jo that the DBing punchline is that all this work is about YOU. Not H, as he can't be depended on to do what he's gotta do. But about you and your changes.
Your changes will positively influence your R with him. Believe in that. And surely you can see it. Even with the occasional step back, things have been getting better - slowly, but surely.
I don't buy that he's that predictable or unchanging, Jo. If you or I and all the others can change our human frailties in lasting ways, so can he. This underlies all such efforts, the idea that human beings are doomed to repeat the past, but can willfully change their own behavior.
Trust that he's learning, Jo. And eat something decent! Please! You're making me hungry over here for you!
((((Jo)))) I truly feel for you, and I know what that state is like - as a result I've lost 25 lbs since the D-bomb. But I've kept it off via hard, disciplined exercise and better diet - true forms of self-love that I wouldn't have fully bothered with in the past. But now I get it: If I don't take care of myself, who is left? And if I'm not here, who will father my S5? Talk about a motivator! NO ONE is going to be subbing for me.
You're secure in your DDs hearts - dont reject them, Jo. Join together, stronger and in ways that ONLY mothers and daughters can. He just can't compare in some respects.
I agree with Bulldogr. Let the sitch sit for a bit, and you please delve into some very notable self-care this weekend, okay? And if the DDs come round, maybe celebrate your Rs and love.
). Always tastes like someone swirled it around an ashtray first. But I digress...
