Well here is my installment that I have been angry about and couldn't write.
Right after I'd written my last update on the very same night, I got an email from H, stating that he knew that this R wasn't what I wanted and that he could see I was just agreeing with him on stuff to do with the kids just for the sake of keeping the peace and that his views on things were different to mine.
He described his attitude as 'rigid and inflexible' yet was not prepared to change this behaviour or even acknowledge that people do have different opinions all the time.
What he wants from a woman is for her to just agree with everything he says. His email was in response to me saying dd1 couldn't have pierced ears.
I am very sad for him that he wants 100% agreement on everything and cannot and will not compromise or let me mother our children at all. He does not acknowledge that they are mine apart from in terms of my legally allowed contact.
He then said some BS about how the angels have told him he is moving away from his path (BIG BIG ego problem here).
He will never find anyone who is willing to agree with everything he says and shutup and be a yes wife, which is what he wants.
I am sad that he can't see that differing opinions enrich life and differing personalities balance each other out and make life interesting. I am sad that he is so closed off to different ways of thinking, that he won't even discuss it with others.
He thinks he is becoming enlightened, but he is only moving further away from God by insisting that his way is the only way and closing his heart to all the other souls in the world.
He knows he does it but isn't prepared to change, like an alcoholic who refuses to give up the booze.
I can't do anything with this R and not even with my kids like this. So I am stepping back.
