No offence taken at all, I agree with you and have always known he uses those kids to keep me - I believe that is the reason he took them, he couldn't let go of me. My eldest looks exactly like me. I have often joked with him, it's like having a mini Jo with him and he laughed and said yes.
Half the time he doesn't even realise he's doing it and when he does, he's not prepared to alter his behaviour.
I don't know what the cut off age is. My lawyer told me once they get to about 13, Andy couldn't stop them if they decided when they wanted to visit me.
I don't fear letting them go because I don't want them to suffer any longer and I know missing me would be nothing compared to the conflict they have been put through and I know eventually they will be back on my doorstep. Even if they hate me to start with, once they hear what happened, they won't. I didn't leave them on purpose.
As for Andy, I agree I need more. Something happened after my last installment. I shall write it tomorrow, and I just know that now is the time to get tough. No more doormat. I won't be there forever. I only promised forever if he was my H.
