Jo I remember your plan to rebuild your life with Andy. Seems like like you were planing it to take severals years for you two to live in the same house. I thought at the time "Jo is very patient to have and work that long range plan."
I also reaize intelectual plans are one thing, especially when feelings of failure overwhelm you because of lack of progress in a relationship.
{{{{{Jo}}}}} hope you are taking care of yourself.