Jo, I can't tell you what to wear. I am not into clothes, but maybe I should take more care in that department.
Quote: I'm terrified and suddenly wondering whether I should cancel.
If you put too much time in being concerned about her, you are giving up some power as a wife to Andy and as a mother to the children. Please go. If it helps you feel any better just imagine me and your other cyber friends being there too.
If you see OW, remember you don't have to like or love her, but you can be cordial or business like. Treat her as your baby sitter your H uses, not as the XOW. I know, easier said than done.
When you get over this step in the process of bringing your R a little closer to your long term goal, it might give you more confidence for future events like this. You can also tell yourself you have another skill that helps leads to handfasting.
Also your daughters will see you as a more willing to be a mom/mum with Andy, than just a mom at moms house. You can be more of a mom at both houses.
Quote: So I'm terrified of getting too close to them in case he pulls the plug on me mothering them.
Go slow at Andy's house. If you maked believe you are their beloved aunt, would that help You? Your R with Andy is like building a savings account a dollar at a time. It takes a lomg time before you might feel there is something in the account that you can count on pulling you through a tough spot. Any little bit helps in the long run.
Quote: Can someone help rise my PMA before tomorrow?
Jo, If we could be with you physically, I am sure we could help in the PMA department big time. Since we can't be there physically, we are mentally. I hope that gives you some PMA. We are cheering for you Jo.
