Great advice from JDD. Work on your Rs with the girls confident that you're here to stay in their lives. He can't do that to you again - ever. You won't let that happen, and you're not that vulnerable anymore because you've learned how to self-care so well. I imagine that H has learned some things as well - he wouldn't be inviting you to their current events if he hadn't.
Look great, and if he anticipates something, feel free to say not tonight dear. Just as he cancelled on you (on Fri?), you can cancel on him in certain ways, letting the anticipation and his efforts grow. Do so nicely and gently though.
You are being a wonderful mother and are a very attractive woman - in many ways. Be confident in that, Jo. Don't let him spoonfeed this confidence to you: being able to own it and know it and remind yourself of it is so much more empowering.
I'm struggling with past pain and resentments today as well...must be the weather
