Not a very good update - or it may just be me or perhaps it's my mood.

My friend was round this afternoon so I didn't answer the phone. I never answer when I have guests as I like to give my attention to the guest.

H left a message on my answerphone, saying he forgot he'd double-booked with this kid's birthday party that he and the girls were invited to 2 weeks ago and he just didn't remember when we arranged dinner.

Since our other date came undone as well (admittedly due to my illness) I was thinking I bet he double-booked on purpose. I was really riled as I bought in extra food especially.
I asked him who was hosting the birthday party, and he told me the name of this woman he is friends with. This p*ssed me off even though it shouldn't.

Here is a bit of the dialogue which is from memory, not msn.

Me: is she aware of our situation? (i.e, that we're together).

H: Yes I told her everything (she is one of the few friends that know).

Don't get jealous, I'm with you, it's nothing like that. She just invited me ages ago and I forgot. She's going through a rough time at the moment so I didn't want to cancel.

Me: I know what you're like with people with problems, especially females with problems. I've done this before. (seething inside but calm sounding voice).

H: Yes and it wasn't even like that then.

(he had an emotional attachment to a woman in 1999. I accused him of an affair, he denied it. It wasn't actually a physical affair - he didn't even kiss the woman but he behaved in a way I found inappropriate for a married man and I felt betrayed, that's when our M problems started)

H: It was never what you thought and this isn't either. She's just a friend and the kids were invited to her son's party. Since I accepted before we arranged the dinner, it didn't seem right to cancel.

Me: Whatever.

H: I am sorry, we can do it again.

Me: Are you picking Alicia up?

H: Yes, I'll be there about 4.30. I've got a new car, I can show you that if you want.

Me: okay.


Well, then he turned up over an hour later than that so the ride in the new car was out, too. Grrrr!!!!
I had re-centred in the meantime and even baked loads of fairy cakes with Alicia to give the children for the party, but then when he was late on top of that, my mood just went out the window.

I was snapping at Alicia, poor thing and it isn't her fault.

H came to the door apologising again about the dinner. I said nothing in response and went off to fetch the tin full of cakes. He then started apologising for being late because the traffic was bad.

I nodded and handed him the tin. He said what's that? Alicia told him it was the cakes that me and her had made (she 'helped' me with it, lol).
I told H they are for the party. He said thanks and had a look at them, then said 'oh wow' to Alicia, who was enthusing about these cakes, and he picked her up and hugged her.

He then asked me if I wanted to see his car so I nodded again and we went outside. On the way out the door, he asked me how I am doing.
I said okay thanks.

We got to the car - didn't even look at the make, lol - but it's one of those people carriers and it's black with these really smart looking door handles, they look like chrome or something. It was really posh.

I commented on the door handles and complimented him on his choice of car, then I said hello to my other kids who were in the car. H gave Lulu (5 yr old) the cake tin and they all said thank you for the cakes.

Then I turned to go back up the steps to my house and H was apologising again about the dinner.

He said I should catch a bus for about 3pm on Monday to his town and he'd pick me up from the bus station so we can go and watch Lulu's ballet together.
He said
'You can come earlier if you want.'
(i.e, if I came earlier, I'd have to go to his house prior to the ballet class) - he seems keen on me going to his place, I'll give him that. He's been trying to get me to go there since last Christmas.
I said I would look up the bus times and get back to him.
He said he would give me a lift back home in the evening if I wanted.

Then they left. I've a good mind to stand him up, grrrr!! but I was looking forward to my dd's ballet.

Any thoughts? I am totally angry atm.

Jo.