Here is my new thread, just because Gabriel said so
SMALL UPDATE:
Today I sent an email to H, giving him details of a new computer customer and some parents who want to home educate so I am hoping that earns me brownie points!
Tomorrow I am off to town to get groceries and post my mail and run a few errands. Still waiting for the printer's to bring my newsletters. Still haven't sorted out my website so work is tediously slow. Wednesday I am off to this thing called Lunch Time, Play time with dd4 where we make a healthy meal while the kids play and then everyone sits down and eats together whilst learning about vitamins. Thursday I am going to Mom's and toddlers group and then seeing my friend Sam (female). Also working on my book, now at page 350
Am seeing H and kids on Friday!! Really looking forward to that and will post installment then
Thanks for posting your new thread. Your sitch has become like a security blanket for me regarding post-D DBing possibilities. I truly am amazed at the PMA you've maintained and the great effects it has had on your H. Glad to know that things are going well, and that you'll be seeing him on Fri.
Quote: Today I sent an email to H, giving him details of a new computer customer and some parents who want to home educate so I am hoping that earns me brownie points!
Us work oriented guys feel more manly when we get a new customer, especialy if the customer is a profitable account.
3 replies in only a few minutes. People must love me on here!
Glad you like the title - I am a writer, I'm good at captions!
I'm glad that so many people seem to get something out of my sitch. That's why I post, really, to give hope to others - as mine was a hopeless case for a long time yet we are still in love.
There just better be a hand-fasting or he'll end up disappointing half of America
BTW, Gabriel, I think you and your W are doing great. Just give it time...
Nice to hear from you. I never left! (I've been lurking other people's threads ).
What am I going to do when I get a house with him? Shall I leave this site then because that will be my happy ending or shall I stay around and annoy everyone like that talking donkey off Shrek?
Hi. Thanks for the post. I sure hope H will be pleased about the computer customer.
I seem to be crossing paths with a lot of people with computer trouble and people who want to home ed! There's quite a large section of 'alternative' parents where I live and lots that have doubts about sending their kids to school.
Our school system starts at age 4 and they have to wear a uniform and sit at a desk all day at that age. There are even tests for little 3 year old's in nursery and me and H just never agreed with it. We sent them to a Steiner kindergarten before H did the home ed. I am still not convinced about home ed, but I figured getting him new people for his group would make him deposit more love points in my bank account
Quote: they have to wear a uniform and sit at a desk all day at that age.
Starting around 6 grade, I think uniforms or all students having the same clothing is good in some respects. It eliminates some of the competition to dress better or worse than their peers.
Some of the Catholic shools have uniforms (2 choices) and the students look nice. The public high schools, grades 9 to 12, do not have uniforms and some groups of kids look and act like gang members. I think the gang want-a-bees would act better if they and everyone else in the school were required to wear uniforms.
Do the little ones have play time /recess? In the US (grades 1 to 6) we had a short recess in the AM, after lunch, and mid afternoon. School started at 8:15 AM and ended at 3:30PM. Starting at grade 7 and above, all time is spent in class except for 20 minuets for lunch and gym/physical education 2 times a week.
Home ED home school in the US is popular with some parents who dislike public schools for various reasons. My personal opinion would be, If more parents would get involved in school activities and bring their values to the schools, there would be less of a need to home school.
OK day for me Jo. i am doing less for BB and she seems to be doing more for herself and me.
BB wanted to "LOOK" at more exescise equipments. I said OK if we "LOOK" but not to get any ideas to buy. She picked out what she wantesd but I reminded her this trip was a "LOOKING" only adventure. I also implied her looking to replace existing equipment will not take place for several years.
Yes Jo, many people think you and your situation is amazing. You have made some incredable progress, given all of the bad things you and H went through. When people see success they want to emulate what was done to reach a simillar goal. Success breeds success Jo.
You also post wise advice. Who would not be inspired by reading your posts. Thanks for sharing your stories, experiences, wisdom, and your advice.
Re the schools, in my opinion the yob like school kids has more to do with the parenting than the children.
There are some truly rubbish parents out there these days who won't even say 'boo' to little Jimmy because he is their precious offspring. The adults don't assert themselves as being in authority over their kids because they're too scared of being politically incorrect or maybe they just lack parenting skills, so the kids grow up with zero respect for the adults.
There also seems to be this culture of 'let's send the kid to school and not bother to direct him the rest of the time and then when he doesn't turn out the way I want, I can blame the teachers.'
There's loads of 'gang' kids round here and even 11 year old's that taunt me if I'm walking passed at school leaving time. Kid's from the 1950's and 60's wouldn't DARE do that because the older generation bothered to parent.
My friend said why don't you get a taxi instead so you avoid them but I'm damn well not paying for a taxi because of some snotty little kid with no manners.
H is really strict with our kids - sometimes I think he is too strict - and I think for a mother I am fairly strict too but apart from the ocassional bout of tiredness induced crying, our kids are REALLY well behaved. They don't swear, they don't bad mouth an adult, they don't scream. They sit quietly when we're in restaurants and stay relatively quiet when we're at meetings etc.
I take my 2 year old to this religious group and apart from talking during the service, she is really well behaved - doesn't go running off or disrupting anything.
She asked to go to the toilet and someone brought her some biscuits when we just arrived, but after that she just sat on my knee for the whole two hours and all I had out of her the whole time was 'Mummy, I have an idea!' and 'Mummy, I love your hair!'
She sat still and ate her biscuits, talked a little, smiled at the other people, then waited for the cab outside at 9pm with no complaint. We got home, she talked enthusiastically about the nice ladies who gave her the biscuits and she asked to go again. Then I got her ready for bed and she went to sleep.
I never have any trouble out of her apart from the usual crying and toddler tantrums. The others are the same. I think it's because we teach them to respect their elders. If I ever found out my daughter was behaving like a gang member at school, she would be grounded until she's 40.
I personally found from my own experience of schools that the teachers have their own agenda or the school has it's policies which leave little room for parental imput and if you try to change the system you are met with hostility. There is also a government based timetable of what the child should learn, which wasn't always what we wanted them to learn.
Plus there's homework for little 4 year old's and quite a large number of our kids with behaviour disorders or stress disorders which I think is just not normal for that age.
There are break times at school but they just put them in a concrete yard, which is also not right in my opinion.
The Steiner school I sent mine to (fee paying) had a proper garden for the kindergarten kids, with trees and flowers and a real wooden tree house, and a tyre tied to the end of a rope for them to swing on
Inside the kindergarten they had all wooden toys and rocking horses and most of it was free play until age 7, apart from story time, ring dancing, art and bread making. They sing in French and German. In the summer months they also did organic gardening and they celebrate all the festivals throughout the year.
For instance, I still take Alicia to the Steiner toddler group and this May 1st, the school are doing May pole dancing with the kids.
There is nothing written till age 7, when they start doing academic stuff and learn reading, writing, maths, foreign languages and flute playing.
We couldn't afford the fees after we split up and I was resigned to sending them to public school with no other choice, but H said no way I will do it myself.
I don't know whether this is any better than the more enlightened public schools, but my eldest dd is now 9 and reads Harry Potter books even though she only learnt to read 2 years ago so H must be doing something right with them.
