Annette... You and your H are both hurting and are dealing with this loss in different ways. Your H probably wants to tune out more and not get into too much feeling talk. He took care of the burial, which he probably felt was the manly thing to do. You probably want to talk about this loss more, but H may be uncomfortable with that. Going through stress really can bring out differences in communication styles that men and women have.
Maybe you can write down a few words and read them with H at the burial site. I'm sorry for your loss.
