That's what I'm aiming for right now. Let HER destroy their "R", not me. Last time he ended it "for me" and it didn't stick. I'm looking at it that I want to become the OW. Let her become needy and clingy (H is not furthering their R beyond the grade 8/hookup to make out at lunch stage) and push for commitment. I will be the place where he seeks relief from pressure. Before, I was the pressure.
And sadly, OW is not the cause of our troubles, she is the symptom. Getting rid of her would be like putting a bandaid on a tumour.
