He was thankful and of course started getting a little rude... H should be putting his efforts into us not the OW.
What you think he should be doing and what he has decided as an individual, grown person to do, whether it's right or wrong, is his decision, right? Try to adopt the attitude that he's making those decisions he thinks are best for him. Ultimately, it may be that those very same decisions are best for you too.
But for now, I must tell you, I always wonder when a read a similar post where the WAS is described as being rude, angry, whatever, and no doubt their behavior is something as described. But it takes two, and I always wonder what the author of the post contributed. They will usually deny that they were anything less than near-perfect, and minimize whatever they did or said, or not even realize the unintended effect on the other that provoked the others' behavior. It's like that old saying, there's his side, there's her side, then there's the truth.
So it's helpful for you to look back at the event you described and examine it to see what you could've done better on your part, how you may have handled the sitch better. By writing this, I'm not assigning blame to you, you understand?
I let him hurt me to many times. Now I am wonderfing what is wrong with me for letting him keep abusing me.
You need to keep boundaries intact. The other thing is that you mustn't let other people affect you so.
I guess that I am starting to realize that it will not work out.
I think Richard Burton said that originally about Liz Taylor.
but belive me I wish that I knew how to be rude so that I might hurt him but I dont have it in me.
Don't think those thoughts, get rid of that behavior. I can tell you from what I've around the net that having the habit once in a while to feel like that will delay your healing process indefinitely. You can heal faster, better, or linger for many years hurting. It's up to you.
H said that he doesn't want a D...how am I suppose to take that...he told me that he sees OW and they kiss but what am I suppose to do wait around until they have decided to do something. I really would like to know what to do? Any suggestions on what to say or do? I always felt that the only way to make him feel the way that I so is to succeed and not show pain. Any suggestions?
While H is unsure of what he wants, that doesn't mean you need to wait on him. Move forward. The best way to take care of yourself and to attract him, if that's going to happen, is to actually let him go and you focus on yourself.
