It sounds like you still want your M even though you are having conflicting feelings. I know all about that, I think most of us do. GAL and detach. I know that seems hard to do. It does help if you start focusing on YOU and your D. I have been conflicted in my R with my H, but I really don't think about ow that much. I finally have realized she is not worth my energy and doesn't deserve my emotions. My kids and I deserve that. Your D needs you to be strong. Keep your PMA up and focus on YOU. Your H will notice, esp when he has a fight with ow. You will start to look like the better choice.