Sorry for not being around. I just got back from Rancho Mirage. I don't like hearing you like this. Now listen...
About a week ago, you were writing about your H and the OW and the situation with the lying and the running around and so on and so forth (man, I sound like Schwarzenegger!). During this time, you sounded so confident, self-assured and strong. It was uplifting to all of us. That's the Michelle that needs to come out. Where is she? Go find her, look in all the rooms, under the bed, behind the shower curtain, she's there somewhere.
I know you can do it! There's a weekend coming, what are your plans? Figure out something fun, get the hell out of Lakewood. Go to RLP again if you have to, it is beautiful out there. He can't think it's killing you. Show strength. In my opinion, you don't have to be sweet and sugary to him, just give him the impression that you are moving on with your life, with or without him. It'll either turn him around (great) or it won't (but the process will make you better).