I guess that I am suppose to be my H friend during this time. How do I do this without telling him to leave that OW.
If you tell him to leave that woman, you really think he will? Gee, I wish it were that easy.
Acting as if you're his friend doesn't mean you agree with what he's doing. Rather, you are accepting that he makes his own decisions, right or wrong.
If you were in reconciliation, than there would be a need to stop contact with the OW, but you're not there yet.
Am I suppose to listen to his emotional hurt or what.
If you can do that with a tin ear, and he feels he needs to confide in you, you can use that to strengthen his emotional bond with you. YOU become the understanding, warm, validating woman. What a strange world huh?
I want to ask him if it realy isnt going to work out with the OW but I already have and he said no.
Time will tell, not words.
I want this all to be my way...lol! I wanted to look at our future together not a whore that has a possibility of raising our D1. Ouch!
"Ouch" is right... you're hurting yourself with those thoughts, no one else.
Here's pretty much the same question I posted somewhere else today, but, if he had divorced you first, and then after some time, dated and met someone, would you be calling her a "whore"?
