So did she really break up with him or not? If she ia sincere, she had her chance to cry and cuss him out and tell him he ruined her life, and now she should be done, right???
Oh, sorry, sorry, but wrong. How many affairs end with one fight? They kiss and make up.
Now, do you still want this marriage? Has H made up his mind as to what he wants?
The thing about the LBS going about saving the relationship is that it invariably occurs when only one partner, the LBS, looks to save the relationship. So, H's making a decision as to what he wants is not a prerequisite to what LBS wants.
He says he tried to quit several times, what is this woman- addictive to him?