First,I think you should STOP talking to OW. While it does keep you in the loop as to what is happening hour by hour, its not good to have all that info to now dwell or imagine "what if" upon. So did she really break up with him or not? If she ia sincere, she had her chance to cry and cuss him out and tell him he ruined her life, and now she should be done, right??? And he can e-mail, text or call her all he wants if she is really done, she is DONE. She should ignore him . Now, do you still want this marriage? Has H made up his mind as to what he wants? Is it possible for you two to go to MC? He says he loves her, but then says thta it could be worked out if she hadn't been in the picture. He says he tried to quit several times, what is this woman- addictive to him? If he is the least bit sincere about his wanting to work this out, you have a chance if she no longer takes any communication from him. That has to be #1. And how about you, have you forgiven him ,are you going to be able to rebuild trust? Hoe do you REALLY feel about it. Does the thought of this being over make you sick to your stomach and depressed or does it almost make you breathe a sigh of relief??Or are you between both (happend to me -alot!!) you have all the support you need here, don't be afraid to drink from the well often, some or all of us have been through parts of your sitch at one time or another. You are not alone. If you are reading DB or DR, you know that you need to do some stuff for you now. It does work, i resisted for a long time, but it does help with your PMA, and showing H that you are the strong sexy capable woman he married, and you will be fine with or without him.
