Let me get this straight - OW called you and while you were on the phone with her, H called and wanted a D? First of all, he is saying it out of anger and desperation. Right now he doesnt want to end things with OW...If he did, he would of done it. He doesnt like the fact that she ended it with him. So now he is lashing out at you, as if it is your fault. let H be mad.,,,He has no right to be mad at you, did you do anything wrong? No. You were intimate with your HUSBAND, he is having an A. What else did the OW have to say?
My H often out of anger threatens a D, but nothing has come to fruition...So let H cool off for a minute before you get worried about that aspect. Has H contacted you again since his phone request for a D?
NY is right...their R is doomed, look at how they handle any type of conflict. None of us wants our Spouses to be with these OP. I think that if my H and I truly did break up and he was with anyone else I would be ok with that...But not the OW he is with now. That is a reaction of our love for them. We dont want them with anyone but us! Take a breather, relax. See what the next few days bring.
