I am sorry...I read your posts...Sometimes I dont always answer other peoples post because I dont think I have that much to add. So sorry you felt neglected.
I've always believed that my H would not come to me and say the actual words "I want to work this out" I figured I had to read his actions, so the same goes for you. But in my case his actions (living at home) would tell me h e is trying, but in the same respect never ending contact with OW tells me he doesnt want to work it out. So what actions has your H shown you. Never mind his words. Because they say one thing and do another. Of course for any marriage to work out, the OP has to be out of the picture...That is a given. It is funny how our H's cant see that...They figure because they have this OP hanging in the backround, they can fall back on that at any time...OF course that is complete bull. But how do you say that without demanding, or trying to force your view on someone else or seem like you are begging and pleading. If you have the answer for that one I sure would like to hear it. Sometimes I feel like a fool, living with H knowing that OW is in pic.
You did well by not fighting with H even tho he was trying to fight. I have become better at that trait as well. Its a hard trait to master, not letting someone suck you into their anger. So wtg on that one!
I cant post too much right now, so please forgive me, but I will definately post tonight
