Speaking for myself, it's difficult to keep posting my mantra over and over again. "Detach, GAL, build PMA, don't dwell on negative thoughts, look at outcomes and results not signs and indications, don't revisit past events and pain again, don't hold grudges, consider the OP to not exist, don't snoop, let go, WASs do what WASs do, focus on yourself the WAS is not your whole life, be lovingly indifferent, act as if you've been given a second chance, zero expectations, plan your life as if WAS will not be a part of it, this takes lots of time and patience..."
But what can you do? I read posts, not necessarily yours, where angry thoughts are entertained, backsliding occurs, lots of venting is needed, analyzing is overdone, frustration is built, victimization sets in, assumptions are made... and there's always the disclaimer "I know it's not DB, I know I shouldn't be doing this, I know I shouldn't have" and the even worse cop out, "I couldn't help myself". Oy.
We all need to have our butts kicked to stay on the path and not even let our little toe cross off of it. Another member just gave up the ghost because of his mounting frustration and anger... and that's the danger... we end up where we're going. It's his decision and so I'm not knocking it, I respect it, but don't we see people deliver ultimatums and close doors and/or make things more difficult and painful for themselves because they're run out of patience or have built frustration and don't they get there - because they haven't let go of the things that lead them there, duh?
So, with that in mind, BlondeQT, what do you think you need to do to get closer to what you want?
