Hey Gabriel-I have been skimming your last thread and this one. I don't know the exact details of the babysitting thing, but in all, I am in awe of your DBing in April! I also think it is working. Have you been keeping a success journal? It is hard to see progress over the months, esp. when we have a tough week.
I am choosing to see what a good parenting partner my H is being these days, in the midst of our mediation (yesterday) and D process. It seems like my H is also nicer to me now, and softer, not nearly as angry, in fact, not angry at all anymore with me. He is also saying hello and goodbye, and thanking me and saying sorry more often when he screws up. I think if your W is doing these things too, that shows real progress. Also- if she is MLCing, like I think my H is, and Bulldogr’s W, then remember that self-esteem is what she needs, what she is after, and lack of it may be keeping her in the fog (my opinion only, from my one experience). If she GALs (in a healthy way) and gets more self esteem, more self-love, she may find it easier to realize how much she loves you. Does this make any sense at all?!? Maybe I am all off.
To all the men out there- women love to get compliments on our mothering- and to have a partner with the challenges, such as diet, tantrums, bedtimes, etc. goes such a long way. If you can figure out WOA on mothering, she will most likely appreciate it.
