Quote: I realize that W is worried about finances, and in our conversation, W stated that she doesn't want to be dependent on anyone (read "me"). Any thoughts about this?
It's odd, isn't it. They want not to be dependent, but they also want support. Financial support, child care, taking both halves of the book contract, whatever.
I have chosen to provide support when asked, but not to volunteer it. Whether this helps, or whether it just perpetuates a festering resentment against dependence, I don't know. I don't think I would go so far as to alter a commitment to work for child care, though. That seems to go beyond support to sacrifice. If she wants to be not dependent, she ought to deal with it on her own, IMO.
