Thanks for posting, folks! Lots of nice, solid advice. It is wise to not go stir crazy and try to buy back W's affections just days before the D. Ain't gonna change anything. So I won't be going overboard with stuff. She received the relaxing waterfall/noisemaker thingy and said that she placed it in her office today. Seemed genuinely pleased.
However, then she switched gears, smiles and all, first checking in with me, noting that S5 asked MIL if she was "crazy" this weekend (he has my instincts about that! ), insinuating that I'm poisoning S5 toward them. I calmly noted that MIL isn't a topic when S5 and I are together as he doesn't bring her up (she's less important than she thinks), and that I don't do inappropriate things like that.
W is still in fullblown self-centered WAW mode. She was in tears on Sunday about having more time to spend as a mother with S5, cutting back on her workaholic, crowd-pleasing ways. Then today, she asked me if I'd be okay with getting cut out of a book-writing contract that she and I signed to write together, as "[she] needs the money and [I] don't." I merely smiled and listened. She also admitted that she's going to be teaching more this summer, and tied in a need to place S5 in more 'summer camps' to get all of this work in. This plain stinks. I let her know that I was commited to my work, and therefore my hands are tied in terms of custody and hours of coverage. I knew that her next move would be to try to guilt me into watching him for her instead of having him sit with a babysitter or in a summercamp, thus making it my choice rather than her decision to do this to him.
I realize that W is worried about finances, and in our conversation, W stated that she doesn't want to be dependent on anyone (read "me"). Any thoughts about this?
), insinuating that I'm poisoning S5 toward them. I calmly noted that MIL isn't a topic when S5 and I are together as he doesn't bring her up (she's less important than she thinks), and that I don't do inappropriate things like that.