1. Your W is continually phoning you to ask for advice, check up on you etc. At your stage, my H couldn't give a monkey's and NEVER phoned me unless it was to shout at me.
2. She wants you to co-parent with her. You are not a victim of parental alienation syndrome as I was. She actually wants you to raise your son.
3. She's inviting you out places and you go on outings together.
4. She's sexually insecure (i.e, negative comments about other women, watching you when there's other women about).
5. Because you are in regular contact she can see your changes and you can demonstrate them more.
You are a long further down the DB path than I was!
6. If you were to just reunite tomorrow you might go back to your previous behaviour and split up again. It takes time if you really want to have a satisfying new M.
7. You need to get to a point where you don't need her, you just WANT her which is different. Then you will be in a stronger position in the M and she will possibly need you more when she realises you don't rely on her coming back.
8. If you get a D, it's a piece of paper. You can get re-married again. Your church would even allow it since she's the same W you married the first time.
9. There is a MAJOR advantage to a D and a re-marriage, you get the HONEYMOON all over again
