Gabe: Far be it for me to give advice since I am such a newbie, but I agree with Martha. You are entitled to get frustrated, resentful, angry, etc... I wonder if she doesn't take advantage of your conciliatory nature and act all put out when you disagree with her. You seem to be bending over backwards to accommadate her needs, what about your needs? Now, I understand the motivation. I find myself doing things and saying things I would not, but for the fact that I want my husband to see me in a positive light. Sometimes I wish I could hold a mirror up to him and say, "Pay attention to what you are doing! You can't always be worried about you and your needs. There are three other people in this family!" But I know it won't get me anywhere. So, I smile and take it until something really important happens and then I will take a stand. Sometimes it seems so unfair that we are the one's that behave in an honorable manner, but I guess the alternative would be to give up and I will NEVER do that. Not right now anyway. Keep doing whatever it takes, Gabriel. You are a credit to both men and women out there and in here suffering from a broken heart. M
