Caverna,



That is...one of the best compliments I have received. I'm glad to know that my posting on here has helped others.

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I know that when your H started approaching, you had moments of sadness, where you just started crying, even though things were looking good on your stitch.

This is what I am going through. H is being returned by the aliens little by little and, for some strange reason, I am having the worse crying spells (he doesn't see them). Why is that?



It does take so long, doesn't it? I think it's a bit overwhelming for everyone involved to rush this process.

I've actually thought about this one a lot. For me, I believe it was fear. As H acted and was more and more like the guy I married (and wanted back!!), I got more scared that he'd get nabbed by the aliens again.

Also, the other thing about it is, as I felt more comfortable in the R, it allowed me to feel things that I had basically buried when I was in survival mode.

In all honesty, I still try to stay away from H and hide these (much more rare) crying spells. I've found all it does is make him feel more guilty--which is a self-destructive cycle. He's better about it now, but there's only so much he can take at a time.

Incidentally...I thought this was interesting. H told me last night that sometimes it's easier to be angry at me than to feel the guilt. He tells me bits and pieces like this more often now. Guess this explains his behavior last year, before he moved out here.

Hope this helps.

[color:"purple"]Nevanna[/color]