I had actually written some updates between my last one and now. I thought I was being really clever by saving them as draft emails in my Yahoo account... However, they are just gone now. Whoops. Maybe not such a bad thing.
Phoenix is gorgeous. I love the mountains, I love the blue sky, and I love the heat!!
The new job is going well. Better pay, better insurance. A little slow to ramp up, but that's okay--considering how stressed I was at my last place. Things got really, really bad before I left... The management was nearly nonexistant. Our "team lead" was a nutcase. I have never worked with a guy like that before. Backstabbing idiot. Didn't know what he was talking about. He would point fingers at anything that just happend to coincide with some issue with the site. Even if it didn't make any sense.
No, I'm not still bitter.
Anyway.
H actually told me, when I flew out here in April to visit, that I looked like I had aged a lot. Not funny on my birthday, and especially not funny since I'm not exactly old, either. Although it was all stress...H said I even looked better right before I went back. And, after I left, my former coworkers said that I had looked really, really stressed. Yikes.
A couple things I've learned that are helpful.
I'm usually not angry about what I think I'm angry about. Or, the best cure for being angry with H about xyz is to spend some good time getting one of my LL's filled. Same goes for him. If he's griping I haven't done the dishes enough, it must mean he's not getting enough attention. I swear it works. I rub his feet more, bring him breakfast in bed...and the next thing you know he doesn't think I'm neglecting the kitchen. Seriously, I swear by this now.
H has absolutely no idea exactly how I am affected by what all has happened. (And I am, by leaps and bounds, dealing much better with things now.) He knows I was hurt, but I've learned he doesn't really get how that actually works out. This took me awhile to realize...we've had some nice conversations on this, in bits and pieces, and it finally dawned on me he doesn't understand how some of my nutty behavior is connected to the things that transpired. That's not to say he's unsympathetic...he can be incredibly sweet...he just doesn't understand why I react to some things or why certain things hurt me.
And finding new friends is like dating. Anyone live in the Phoenix area?? lol I'm looking for a new martial arts school, thinking of maybe trying Kung Fu. I'm also thinking of taking the yoga classes at my gym. And I'd like to take a Spanish class. (Ok, that last one I've been saying for the past year. )
We're planning on buying a house, soon. Planning on renting for another year and pay off a few more debts in that time, but hopefully, we'll be being a nice little house soon.
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