I'm sorry to hear about your sitches and the justifications used. I have a somewhat similar story so just know that you're not alone...
H and I agreed to not have kids before we got M because he didn't want any. I had originally wanted a couple but I gave up the idea for H. That decision was based on the idea that we would be M forever, of course.
Now that H met OW (with 3 kids from her H) he thinks he might want to have a "little boy" with her and NOW says he never had any with me because "I wasn't right for him." He's rewriting history and now that I'm too old I feel cheated out of having kids.
