Thank you so much for your kind replies. You know, I really don't think he would ever walk away from kids if he committed to that. He's always made comments that - how men we've known have been trapped in unhappy marriages because they would never leave because of the kids - it makes me think that's the reason he's doing this NOW - we didn't conceive (of course, he was having A during the year I was on the meds!) so he has an "out". And the thing about adopting by myself....that's the heartbreaking thing - I didn't just want kids just to have and/or raise kids - I wanted to raise OUR kids tha would be part him and that we would impart our shared values to (ha - so much for shared values, huh???). And of course this timing just SUCKS - this would have been my last possible year, but of course as a man he doesn't have to consider that, does he? And his younger OW doesn't have to be concerned about that, right? The thought of running into him and his new family or a pregnant wife makes it seem impossible for me to maintain contact if we end it - I cannot imagine surviving that....
