I remember when things were working between my husband and me, we resovolved issues with play. I would be standing at the sink washing dishes and he would pretend to reach for something and bump into me, and I would sock him in the arm playfully, and we would play back and forth and start laughing.
These days we seem to avoid conflict and I can feel that it is not healthy.
I agree with taking a break from working on the marriage. I think that is the direction I may need to take for now. To stop analyzing what would be good/bad divorcebusting and just focus on myself for awhile.
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Arguing with reality is like trying to teach a cat to bark—hopeless. (Byron Katie)
