quote: ------------------- Quote: ------------- Love is a choice. Your feelings will ebb and flow. -------------
I've heard that before. Logically, there are a million reasons to choose to love her...then why am I motivated not to? -------------------
You make choices because they are the right thing to do, not because they feel a certain way.
If I feel I should beat the next door neighbor senseless because he likes to use a leaf blower at 6am on a Sunday morning, then I choose NOT to do it, I have made the right choice.
You choose to love your spouse or your kids because they are your wife and kids, not because they made you feel like the first time rush of some illicit drug. You do it because it is the right thing to do.
You still deal with negative issues between you and wife and/or kids, but you choose to do that in an upright, forthright manner because it is the right thing to do.
You don't dump them just because they are not making you feel good.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
