Quote: Julie, Why would he look at porn before you ML?
I have used my own equivalent of porn ( erotic novels) before ML. Typically, I would take a bath and read something racy in order to get myself going, esp if it was a scheduled sex nite. I don't do this anymore...I feel I have been able to let go of this crutch ( although it might be fun to do on occasion), due to a few factors; my own sense of confidence that my body will respond, a desire to feel more connected to H without the fantasy stuff thrown in, and better communication with H as to what arouses me coupled with his willingness to put it in action.
I am also curious as to why your H uses the porn before ML...does he feel he needs to added boost to make sure he is aroused? H and I have been going through this, and let me tell you, it has set off some insecurities in me, sending me back into Differentiation City.
