Even though I used the phrase "less of a jerk", I didn't mean to imply that your H was a jerk or that you had given that impression. You have made it clear that your H "stepped up to the plate" when you took a stand on the sex issue. I guess I was trying to express that on a continuum of "stepping up to the plate" in order to resolve sexual problems that have a certain similarity, your H was making the best effort and Cally's the least at the moment.
The only thing you have ever posted about your H that IMO could be considered "jerky" is that you once, perhaps mistakenly, gave me the impression that your H prefers "quickies" even though he knows that you might have difficulty orgasming in that context.
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