Just a comment on the love vs passion thing...I have lowered my expectations on this one. For instance, I know that one of the reasons H is driven to initiate is because he realizes I sleep better after we ML, and one thing he hates is when I am restless at nite ( don't ask how I know this...I just do). It's still a "win" for the relationship and results in more positive feelings towards each other. I think I will always want to be, on some level, his object of desire, but I am trying to be more realistic about it now.
