I visited MarriageBuilders.com last year and pulled the articles on PA's and EA's. There is one line sticks out in my mind (among many others)..I remember reading, "There's a fine line between contemplating having an affair, and actually having the affair". It described the beginning, the friendship, and by that time I was in tears. One life shattering experience to say the least. I also read Michele's article, "Forgiveness is the Gift to Give Yourself". I have forgiven, but the hurt and wonder are still there. I will say that the sting is gone but I learned a very hard lessen if life. One that I do not wish upon my worst enemy.