Oh and one more thing. Maybe she seems unwilling to work on things because she doesn't realize the extent of your unhappiness. My H tried to do the same things but never came out and said....I am not happy in our M....Something is wrong with us........I don't know if I can continue in our M unless something changes.
This might be enough of a wake up call for her. It wasn't until my H dropped the bomb that I realized just how unhappy he was and that I was at the root of it.
Watch out because if left alone you will get to the point where he was at the ILUBNILWY stage. I wish my H would have just come flat out and told me these things instead of trying 'round about ways. Looking back on things I can see the effort he put forth in trying to change things but at the time I didn't understand where he was coming from and just swept it under the rug and thought it would pass. It is kinda eery because my H's complaints match up so well to what you are saying and the same with your W and I.
BTW, once it finally clicked for me, ironically enough, I was the one who read all of the books and made all of the changes. Our sitch has totally turned around with a bunch of ILU'S...Thank God!
