Quote: If you are not happy with your M what have you done to work on it? ... What 180's have you done to improve things? Have you seen a MC? Have you read DR or DB?
I have tried to "lead by example" and do things that I'd want done back to me (such as kisses or hugs at random, talking about how I feel, being accommodating and letting W have time to herself while I take the kids somewhere). 180's were tough since I already do a lot to "make life easier" for my M. We saw a MC in April 2003, and in May, I hope to get to see another one with my W, although I have to convince her that it's necessary. I've read DR and SSM and Schnarch's PM.
The only thing that I feel my W "owes" me is honesty about how she's feeling and what she's worried/concerned about in our M. In the past few years, she has maintained that "nothing is wrong" and that she's happy. While I try to take that at face value, I doubt that that's true.
