Just browsing through your thread and had a couple of questions for you? If you are not happy with your M what have you done to work on it? It sounds like you have done some pretty destructive things like having an A. What 180's have you done to improve things? Have you seen a MC? Have you read DR or DB? You may not intend for your writing to sound arrogant but you do sound like your W owes you something.
Yeah she is hurt and is dealing with a lot of emotions right now. Give her some time and some space and in the meantime work on yourself and see if you can't make some changes come about in your M. What are some of the things that you are unhappy with? Chances are she is not happy either and her needs are not being met. Do you know which ones these are? Instead of rocking her world with a shock or a devastating bomb why don't you change. It is important to still be honest, maybe a MC can help you to tell all the truths about your infidelity and that it was a symptom of your unhappiness. Just a few suggestions and a few questions.
