My WS and I started a communication exercise that Harville Hendrix has created in his book "Getting the Love You Want". It's interesting that my WS is the one who had the impetus to begin the exercise; she is the one who suggested we complete it. I am thinking hopefully that shows some interest on her part to work on restoring our relationship. The exercise consists of each partner making up a list of components they think are important in their relationship "We have a very good sex life", "We worship together", "We are financially secure", etc. The partners then rate the items and check them if one of the partners thinks the item needs to be worked on. I put down "We are sexually faithful". I marked it "1" (most important), and I marked it that we need to work on it. I am wondering how my WS is reacting to that, since we are going to post the list in our house and read it to each other every day. I guess I didn't want to mention the elephant in the living room, but it is there just the same. I don't expect any reply to this post, since no one has replied to this site for several weeks, but I just needed to write this down to clear my mind.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
