I did my first post on 4/12/05 and got exactly one reply (did get 62 viewings). This isn't working out for me because can't have a conversation if no one is answering. I am also posting at www.survivinginfidelity.com which has a much better response rate. So-o-o-o, adios, y'all from Atlanta, and good luck with all your recoveries.
FWIW, there may be more responses on SI, but they're mostly not helpful. They're mostly encouraging anger, negativity and resentment. Read their members' posts, and you'll see many of them are months and years from their DDys, and are still venting and spewing negative venom. Many of them are stuck in anger, cynicism and resentment, and refuse to do things that will have them moving forward in a positive way. And that's the kind of advice that will keep you stuck along with them for some time to come, fair warning. I gave up on that site a long time ago.
As a matter of fact, I had met someone from there, and she posted about me. What she posted had several relevant omissions, on top of which she misquoted me, and actually painted a far different picture from the reality by doing so. Perhaps she was trying to justify her position. Of course, all her responses fed from that, and spewed further, though there were a couple of responses from people who saw through the cracks and questioned her position. People mostly were commenting negatively about someone who they did not know, and of whom they were given an incorrect view of, spinning their own layers of negative assumptions and presumptions onto it. So, since that aligns itself with my sense that many members there are negative, it doesn't surprise me that they so often paint everything as bad. So if you're seeking a cheerleading squad designed to make one feel better by way of playing into the blame game, SI's just the site for that.
I even once had a rather intelligent suggestion for the site, and emailed it to the site's administrator. Her response? She sent me an email taking offense that I even suggested something. It was as if she felt that by my suggesting something, I was inferring the site of hers wasn't good enough. I couldn't believe it. But then, reading her posts, she's a very negative person.
If I had taken the majority of their advice when I used to post there, today I'd probably be as pissed off at my WAW as anybody could be and would've stopped all contact with her, as per their well known "No Contact" philosophy with the WAS. Instead, I have lunch dates with her, building a friendship, so there's still somewhat of a possibility for us in the future, which is the aim of why we come to these sites in the first place.
Even their terminology: "BS" for "Betrayed Spouse" and "WS" for "Wandering Spouse" draws a line in the sand and paints a bitter representation of the partners in the relationship inherent in it's usage. Compare that to this site's non-judgmental acronyms "WAS" for "Walk Away Spouse" and "LBS" for the "Left Behind Spouse".
Nothing was stopping you from posting more here yourself about you and your sitch, though. Blaming others for not responding as you would've liked them to is your prerogative, but in my view, not productive. Best of luck to you, though.
