Thank you all for the great advice. I held my tongue yesterday and kissed my husband telling him to have a nice evening at work. I had previously told him that I would like for him to come home on all of his breaks but I explained that I said that out of confusion and distrust. I told him that in an effort to rebuild my trust, that needs to be his decision and I do not expect for him to do it every night that he works (as I also use this time to do school work so as not to have this responsibility on the days when he is off). He then offered up all kinds of information. Thanking me for trying to trust him. Gave me every detail of what he had planned for his breaks and mentioned that since his last break is at 2 am every morning that he will utilize this time to go to the gym.
He also called me prior to my leaving work yesterday to state that he would like to get a sitter for Friday and take me out. He had originally asked me to go to a co-worker's party, however, I told him that should the OW show up, that would not be a good situation. At the time, I told him we would talk about it at a later date. Well when he called yesterday, he said forget the party. He wants to take me to dinner, movie, & dancing because he needs to focus on us stating that his priority is no longer parties, etc. It really made my day, but then there is that devilish thought in the back of my mind that maybe he talked to her and found out she would be there so changed his mind. At any rate, he is choosing the family.
He called home several times last night at work and even informed me that he had requested a change to the day shift (which means a pay cut) to try and improve things at home. He said that he would have to submit a hardship to try and expedite the change so we are going to try and compile a letter this week that would be approved - please pray for us.
